Here (and on Facebook) I last posted about how we need to be careful in response to the tenuous passage of Prop. 8 not to scapegoat the Mormons. I was thinking about how Mormon temples have selectively been protested, there are websites that identify Mormon donors, and other websites with names like “Mormons Stole Our Rights.” Some have pointed out to me that such efforts are, technically, factual, and not only that, warranted, given the exorbitant amount of resources poured into marriage discrimination by members of the Church of Latter Day Saints. I agree with both points. But as valid as it is to express our anger, we need to make sure our response is not more harmful than helpful in the process.
Our ultimate goal is to change enough hearts and minds on the issue of same-sex marriage such that equal civil rights may forever be secured for LGBT people. While there are some genuine ‘haters’ on the other side, I am convinced that there are also many good people just across the line who will, if persuaded, help us permanently settle this question next time it goes up (in California, at least). I am also convinced that if our response is instead perceived by most people across that line as a disproportionate attack, then our progress will actually be impeded by further division.
Let’s look to the historical example of emerging gay rights within the United Church of Christ. In 1985, the General Synod, somewhat of a ‘governing body’ for the UCC, became Open and Affirming, which was a suggestion from the top that churches open their employment, volunteer and membership ranks to welcome LGBT people into full, equal participation. Today, there are approximately 5,518 UCC congregations, of which, approximately 657 are Open and Affirming. So even though the official standing from our top body of governence asked 20 years ago that all churches become Open and Affirming, approximately 88% are not. This is because the General Synod’s resolutions are not binding. There are two ways to look at this.
My impatient, inner-tyrant notes that even among our liberal UCC, many churches are not LGBT inclusive, and that is inexcusable. From my theological standpoint, those churches should all become Open and Affirming, and they should do it today – because it’s the good, Godly, and right thing to do. HOWEVER – if at any point this became a binding resolution, back then or even today, we would have lost countless congregations. And here’s the really important point: there are churches that are Open and Affirming today that would have left the denomination had they been forced to adopt LGBT inclusivity back in 1985. So though it’s taking a while, the non-binding nature of the UCC’s resolutions has actually created the space for changed hearts and minds on the issue – without fostering unnecessary division in the process.
Let me hasten to acknowledge that this is radically different from what we are looking at in California today. However, the underlying principle is the same: it is through open (though often forceful) dialogue, rather than divisive tactics that shut down communication, that we are able to bring about change.
That is why I think we need to be careful not to primarily scapegoat just one group of people (Mormons) in our response to Prop. 8. Even though I believe that all of the outrage directed towards the Mormon church is morally justified, I worry that a too-narrow attack on the Mormon church will cost us the support of many moderate Mormons (and others) who could be our allies next time around.
Check out this undeniably moving account on the aftermath of Prop. 8’s passage, as experienced by Vanessa, a Mormon woman who voted “Yes” while acknowledging the troubling reality of the human cost of denying marriage. She is precisely the sort of person who I believe will ultimately change her position once she fully assumes her moral obligation to this human reality. At the least, her post helps illustrate that Mormons who supported Prop. 8 are not a monolithic voting bloc that should categorically be cut off or dismissed.
We who oppose marraige discrimination must ask ourselves: what sort of diplomacy is needed in order to change the hearts and minds of people like Vanessa? And are our present efforts helping or hindering this cause?
Michelle Malkin whips up violent, anti-gay frenzyDecember 12, 2008 — Tom Ryberg
Conservative author/commentator/blogger Michelle Malkin has a new post out as part of an ongoing series about persecuted straight people in the aftermath of Prop. 8. From what I can tell, her modus operandi is to blog about as many hyped-up, isolated instances of anti-Prop. 8 violence, vandalism or harassment as she can. She does this in order to sell the broader narrative that the good, normal, straight people who supported Prop. 8 are under threat of attack by a vicious mob of crazed queers, who evidently roam the streets looking for church-going grandmothers to kick (and/or sodomize, probably).
Let me be clear: I deplore individual and mob violence, and categorically condemn the few instances of vandalism to church and/or personal property that has occurred in the aftermath of Prop. 8’s passage. I have written here and here about our need to maintain respectful dialogue and avoid scapegoating the Mormon Church in particular as we move forward. But to those on the right who are shocked – shocked! by the huge groups of protesters who are inexplicably pissed that gay people have been relegated to second-class citizenship, get over yourselves. You made that bed, now we all must sleep in it.
At any rate, Michelle Malkin’s persecuted-majority complex can be ignored easily enough, but she is apparently influential enough to inspire actual violent rage amongst some of her readers. Check out these comments on just one recent thread of hers:
These comments, coming from just this one post (I’m not sure I have the stomach to comb through looking for more), belie a shocking anti-gay sentiment that is murderous at its core. It’s amazing what people will say under the guise of Internet anonymity.
Here’s a “note from Michelle” at the onset of the comments section (emphasis mine):
Well, lookit that – Malkin “usually” purges her blog of such sentiments. Okay, well, it’s been four six ten 549 days since the above comments have sat on her site. Let’s see how long they remain. [Update on 6/15/10: after eighteen months, I think we can safely assume that Malkin has no intention of removing the hate speech.]
Finally, a note to Michelle, from a fellow Oberlin grad: it seems to me that if your main thesis is about how out-of-control, violent and crazy those people are out there, then perhaps you should think take care that your words don’t engender out-of-control, violent, crazed people in your own backyard. And if that happens anyway, then perhaps you should use the means you have already given yourself to purge those sentiments from the website in your name.